Wednesday, August 12, 2009
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Saturday, May 23, 2009
A thought that usually complements the "there will be no time" logic is "since there's no time anyway, I might as well blow it too and do whatever I feel like as long as I can" (in an environmentally unsound way, that is) - also known as "the social trap" among social scientists. I could right a whole post on that but, simply put, I don't want to know I'm part of the destruction process, even if I were certain everything is doomed. Many people have found that finding an Earth-friendly path is not only a way to help the planet, but also a way to learn and grow personally, as a family, and as a community.
There are hundreds of examples of that online, but one I can think of now is the blog These Days in French Life, which recounts the story of a family who embarked on a non-consumerism journey. It did not even start for environmental reasons, and in the author's words:
"I am having fun with it, discovering so much about myself and our planet along the way and hopefully inspiring my close circle of friends and readers to do the same. We are happier, more content with what we have and cherish each other and what nature give us without the constraints of money in our lives.
"Also, I feel more grounded and in touch with 'mamie' who lived through some tough times and I am discovering her world and past generations traditions along the way. I feel very blessed to have stumbled upon this through the slow year."
What could be better than that? A slow, harmonious, satisfying way to live life - and anyone can find their own special way to do it if they wish. The extra bonus of leaving a lighter footprint on the planet, regardless of the possibility of future "doom".
In sum, I am an eager advocate of "saving the world from the inside out" by giving importance to positivity, stoping and feeling a connection to the Earth, finding our path (even if it means taking "only" small steps), learning along the way, and setting a loving example. How about starting NOW? :)
Sunday, May 10, 2009
If you have been investigating your eating habits, it is not new to you that food is more often used to supply our psychological needs than our physical needs. I have already written here about how we use food as a way of numbing ourselves from situations and feelings we do not want to face. Now, after several months analyzing how I use my food as an "anesthetic", I have lately been shifting my focus to another aspect of emotional eating that is more related to filling in my voids than to trying to hide my sore thumbs.
I am not referring to the kind of unexplainable voids we feel sometimes: those vague sensations that tell you something is not really in place (the way I imagine a mid-life crisis might taste like - pun intended!). What I refer to is a lack of pleasurable things in life, the inability to find or feel pleasure in our daily activities, or even the inability to believe we deserve to feel such pleasure. Yet life is today, life is now, and if we're not enjoying this moment, when do we expect to?
The point I am trying to get to is the following: if you have nothing to look forward to in your day, you're going to find something - anything - to fill in that void. And if you're like me, that thing might just be some less-than-healthy "comfort" food. So, what exactly is "missing" in your day?
I put "missing" in quotes because - in theory at least - I believe we should be able to find enjoyment in life no matter what. To me happiness is something that comes from within and not the other way around. Unfortunately for many people (myself included), it is not always that simple, and on our journey to "nirvana" we end up using some crutches along the way. So much the better if they are of the healthy kind...
I'll give my example here in case other people might relate. For a while I had been working on (and succeeding) quite well in feeling happy regardless of the moment I was living and being positive about the fruit I would be harvesting in the near future (literally and non-literally in this case! :)). Then certain aspects of my present life started to weigh on me and I started to rely on (junk) food again. I must admit that eating certain foods have recently become the "high point" of my days again - even though I feel quite crappy afterwards. Which has also made me realize I must do things I really love every single day and not wait for the "perfect moment".
Right now I feel somewhat stuck. I am living in a place I rather not (and cannot move just this moment), I am working on something that wasn't exactly what I dreamed of (and can't leave it just this moment either), and my financial situation isn't exactly the best. I am also involved in a web of things I got into over the years and that will take a while to disentangle from.
I hate to complain about my life; first because I am lucky to have a wonderful family and second because I live in a country where it would be an understatement to say that most people are less fortunate than myself. Yet I also hate to have to conform to a sub-optimal situation because of the sort of "universal guilt" or whatnot that women often love to carry.
Rationally, I know that I am slowly moving towards a better picture, but sometimes it just seems to be taking too long. Thus the feeling of being stuck: to get to where I want I must do several things I rather not do, so I procrastinate and end up taking even longer and because I feel guilty that I'm not doing what I should be doing. Consequently, I also end up sabotaging what I truly love to do.
To sum it up, although I have known this rationally for a long time, only now has it really clicked that if I want to keep emotional eating down I must make time everyday to do things that bring me pleasure. My life is now and I can't spend it solely doing chores and working on stuff I don't like that much. Not only for myself, but also for the people around me that I love – I am certainly a better mother, wife, daughter, friend, etc. when I am happier!
To me, some of the things that bring me pleasure and help me live a more harmonious life are: writing, exercising, spending time with my son without worrying about all the chores I have to do, and moments of solitude when I can just be. That way it is much easier to eat what really nourishes me instead of using food to numb myself or to fill in my voids.
And you, what is pleasurable things are missing in your day?
Friday, April 24, 2009
Where I live
Two hours north of Manhattan,
Some other cool stuff online related to gratitude:
Kids Gratitude Workbook (free e-book)
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Summer mango smoothie
- Flesh of one mango
- Juice from one tangerine
- One pear
- Cold water and/or ice
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
Or so I thought.
Today I had a very interesting "aha moment", which made me realize that maybe it's the opposite. Maybe, just maybe, my true self only comes through during the infamous PMS. Let me explain.
I have had bad PMS for as long as I can remember, and for the last two years with raw food I have become more and more aware of it and what happens to my emotions during that portion of the month. In fact, for a while I realized that my PMS was getting much worse the more days I managed to stay raw each month: inevitably, everything would end in a huge chain of binges that only stopped when I got my period again (phew!).
What I believed was that the more I became raw the more I got closer to really living out my true self, doing what I want to do, being in the now, etc. However, I thought that was the "nice" side of myself, the one that showed up after PMS was over, the patient, good humored one who hardly raises her voice when someone purposedly steps on her callouses.
This time, because of a big personal crisis, I started paying attention to the "good" part of the month and realized maybe that's not the true me after all. Maybe that's all the ego, going "look at how nice I am" or "look how people like me". Maybe my "bad side" is not really bad. After all, it.s during that phase when I can tell people what I think without fear of disapproval. In other words, each month my true self tries everything to assert itself and come out, but I just keep trying to shut it up everytime. With food.
This really brought about a shift within me and I think I will be finally able to go through an entire month - PMS and all - living my true, raw self. I can't wait to see what more I will find out about myself!